βForever First LadyβΒ Michelle ObamaΒ covers upcoming December/January issue ofΒ ESSENCEΒ Magazine.Β Β All smiles and looking stunning in a natural hairstyle for the first time. Β She talks to ESSENCE about her days in the White House, how to find your own Barackβand whatβs next for her.
ON HOW TO FIND YOUR OWN BARACK:Β βI think a lot of people donβt have a clear idea of what they should look for in a mateβand for a long time, I didnβt eitherβ¦What drew me to Barack was that when I met him, he was already a fully formed individual. From our very first conversations, he showed me that he wasnβt afraid to express his fears and doubts, or that he might not have all the answers. He could handle someone with her own passions and goals, someone who had ideas of her own. He relished it, in fact. I liked thatβ¦β
ON HER HAPPIEST DAYS IN THE WHITE HOUSE:Β βAny day that I got to spend time with children was a good day. Sometimes if I was need of a pick-me-up, my staff would schedule an event with young people to give me a boost. Kids give me energy. They get me out of my own head and remind me about the things that are most importantβ¦β
HER ADVICE TO WOMEN ON BALANCING IT ALL:Β βWhen I was raising young children, I learned to lean on a group of my friends in Chicago, women who, like me, had jobs and partners and children who kept them moving every minute. Weβd help one another in very concrete ways, like picking up each otherβs kids for dance lessons or a birthday party or anything else that came upβ¦Of course, we leaned on our husbands as wellβ¦But for me, there was something specialβsomething vital, evenβabout sharing this experience with other women who were going through the same kinds of stresses and challenges that I wasβ¦β
ON WHATβS NEXT FOR HER:Β βSince we left the White House, Iβve spend most of my time focusing on finishing this book. The book tour will keep me busy for a while, and then Iβll take some time to evaluate whatβs next. Iβm in no hurry. What I know is that public service is in my DNA, so Iβm planning to find ways to keep being usefulβ¦I see myself always staying involved in efforts like thatβ¦β